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Gaelic Flip

“I was homesick when I wrote this, forgive me if it goes astray,” at least I think that’s what he said. Even if it is not, it is true that I am feeling out of place. It is an unusual kind of homesickness, since I am missing a place I never actually lived, but have only visited. The Germans have a word for it, who am I kidding the Germans have a word for everything, even it is super compound. They call it “fernweh” which translates, roughly, as “farsickness”, a bittersweet longing for a distant place. That sums it up nicely, as I sit here wishing I were on the wild Western coast of Ireland. It is an easy place to miss during this season of the green where there are reminders around every corner. It has always held a special place in my heart, ever since that first visit. It’s the place my family comes from, where I have spent not nearly enough time, but always feels like home. Gazing from the cliffs out on that white capped, deep blue sea, the salty wind in my face, just feels natural. It feels like home…and I miss it. Since, I cannot go there today, I will have to bring a bit to me and with that in mind, won’t you join me now as we stand and make the Gaelic Flip.

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Left Hand

I love love. Always have. I am a hopeful romantic from way back, absolutely addicted to grand gestures and big feelings made manifest. I can’t help it, as much as the world has reinforced my latent cynicism, like Huey Lewis, I still have believe in the power of love. I am also a contrarian by nature and one of the best ways to get me to not do something is to make me feel that it is expected. Which is why, if I am honest, I have to admit that deep in the bottom of my romantic heart I sort of hate St. Valentine’s Day. There is something sinister in this day where grand gestures are expected for those in love and pain is amplified for those on the outside of affection. I don’t think a few dozen roses or dinner, drinks and jewelry make up for not being there for your amour the other 364 days of the year. The expression of love should happen every single day and not come all at once like a death bed confessional guaranteeing forgiveness in the final reel. So with a sidelong glance at those sinistral greeting card executives, florists and restauranteurs waiting in the wings, won’t you join me now as we stand and make the Left Hand.

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Consensual Objectification

The first lesson in Robert Fulghum’s “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten” is “Share Everything.” There are lots of other bits of wisdom in there like play fair, clean up your own mess, say you’re sorry when you hurt someone or hold hands and stick together when you go out in the world, but the sharing part is what always struck me. Which is funny because, as kids, we know that. From a an early age we are hammered with the message to share and not be selfish, to look out for our fellow humans and remember that we are all in this together. Seriously, this seems to be the super critical message of childhood, which is funny, since kids seem to get the importance of sharing almost instinctively. As we get older, well…maybe we can get into that later, but for now let’s focus on the positives as we stand and make the Consensual Objectification.

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